Monday, 5 February 2018

On being young in a loud and confusing world


I was born in 1997, the first years of my life in Romania were quiet and peaceful. The country, which just came out from under communism 8 years before, was like a time capsule, in many ways still stuck in the past, in both good and bad ways. The internet was still a legend when I was a child, something to be used in very specific instances and with big waiting time. There were no smartphones or gadgets to play with, and as children, the fun would be derived from whatever our mind would come with and usually involved exploring outside. 21 years later, today the world has become, especially in places like Europe a very different world. Besides all the technological advancements, there have been conflicts, wars, and economic crisis just to name a few. So far, nothing new compared to what humanity has been doing since the dawn of its existence.
            What is new, however, is all this background noise. And there’s a lot of it. And you know what I am talking about. It’s all the beeps and sound notifications, it’s all the flashy screens, targeted advertising, news outlets and many more. All this information overload is not something our brains our accustomed to, and how it has taken a toll on our cognitive capabilities is quite obvious, if one looks at aspects such as the rise of attention deficit disorder. I think out of most inventions, the smartphone is the most defining and the one that bothers me the most. Besides the fact that you are carrying a portable recording device that collects data on everything about you, what you like or don’t like, what places you visit in order to sell you ads (for now), it also quite clearly affects everyone’s ability to interact face to face. And this is of course, the great irony of social media, the fact that it makes people interact less and feel lonelier, as we slowly drift apart in internet personas. Back in the old days, one couldn’t just escape social interaction by sitting on their phone. But here we are now, avoiding what is uncomfortable by evading in a screen that is personalized to be your best friend. A bit dystopian, isn’t it?
            I’m a Millennial, which means I’ll have a great time not really having financial security, a house and chances of raising a family. When my grandfather was my age, he already was married to my grandmother and had my mum. Back in the day, communists came and seized all the land. My grandparents and mother, which were born in a small village in central Romania, had to leave everything they had in order to find better living in the city. They did so with only the clothes they were wearing at the moment, with no education or money. My grandfather’s efforts payed off, as I managed to go, 70 years later, to the Netherlands to study. Every generation has their struggle and what my grandparents went through is much harder in different ways than what my generation is going through. Blessed but stressed is an expression that I feel describes well my current predicament. And in a way, my grandparents were freer. Yes, they couldn’t leave the country. Propaganda was high, and living standards modest. But they had each other, they had genuine connection, and they didn’t have to worry about what was outside their sphere. Today, we have a much better access to education, better healthcare. I have floor heating in my room, which for my grandparents it is something out of a sci-fi movie.
            Yet our generation was thrown in a very weird point of history. The effects of climate change are becoming more and more clear. The economic system forces us to be very competitive and that makes people take themselves way too seriously and neglect their health in order to get extra hours of work done. And then there’s Trump, the biggest internet star, as social media turned Politics from something serious into a bad soap opera we have no choice but to watch. It’s quite clear that politicians do not know what they are doing in order to stop climate change, and there’s a general consensus that there’s a lack of consensus on almost everything. While older generations accuse us of being entitled, complaining and all in all bad people, they can sit down comfortably on their sofa as they are approaching old age. They will be gone soon, and the mess they have made is what we will inherit and have to deal with. It’s quite easy then, to see why our generation is scared, prone to anxiety and panic attacks, which are made even worse by being amplified by all the noise on social media.
            What is there to be done to still be okay with life is something I am still trying to figure out. What has helped so far have been reflections of an existentialist manner. After all, I have been thrown into this context without consent. The cards I have been dealt with it have been good, just being able to write this article and think about these things is a privilege not many people have. A great source of inspiration has been my grandfather, which managed against very hard odds to work, get educated, and provide for his family. I try to focus on what really matters to me, connecting with people, creating with them, being joyful and playful. What the future will hold for me, or for any of you, is anyone’s guess. And in a way, it does not matter that much, as we are here right now. And the now is the only moment there really is, so feel free to remove yourself from the front of the screen, go outside, paint, sing, do a silly video, or whatever floats your boat.  Being able to detach from the noise is important. Don’t worry about missing out, you already know what you will find if you go back to the noise, it’s the same old story every time. Be more worried about missing out on your own life, as the streams of information passing next to you distracts you from what your really want to achieve, do and feel.
            Until next time,

-Vlad

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